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Feeling rejected? Rub love in like a lotion.

That’s what I was told a few months after I had become a Christian. It was great advice, but took me a while to discover what it meant, even though my friend told me.

He said that though I was being loved a great deal by others, I still felt rejected because of the effects of being disowned and disinherited after becoming a Christian. He said that the love was rolling off of me like water off of a duck’s back because I did not have a way to receive it.

I knew he was right, but told him I did not know how to change it. He said that much of it was about focus. I told him that in my mind my focus would often go to the thing that screamed the loudest — in this case the pain from the rejection. Acceptance and love were not being received because their voices were being drowned in the noise from the storm of pain.

He paused for a while, looking down, brow furrowed. He took so long that his wife reached out to gently touch his shoulder, reminding him of the need to speak. I think He was praying, asking God to speak through him. I believe He did.

He continued to wait, then finally told me to rub love in like a lotion. He clarified that the kind of love I should focus on was love that agreed with the description of love in 1 Corinthians:4-8 and came from people that wanted the best for me. He said I should actively focus on that love, and continue to think about it until it went in (to my mind and soul). He said I should rub the thoughts in until all the love was absorbed into me, and that I should not stop doing so until I knew that I had been loved. I should note that I was being loved by people and by God.

He said that God was building in me the ability to receive love, and eventually I would be able to take it in fully. He said that receiving love would overcome the rejection, leaving me free to grow in Christ fully, with the ability to help others.

Receiving love in my life has brought healing, comfort and confidence. It takes time, but rubbing love in like a lotion has been helpful in receiving love and practicing Philippians 4:8-9. I recommend actively receiving love if you feel rejected or are being oppressed or persecuted — yes, even rubbing love in like a lotion. It works.

Keywords: Receiving love, lotion, rejection, persecution, oppression

You’re worth it

God gave Jesus for all of mankind. He had and has infinite worth to God. What does that say about the worth of each individual? About your worth to Him?

Infinite worth, divided by any number of people on Earth, results in every person always having infinite worth (though I believe that Christ’s life paid fully for each one of us). This means that to God each person on Earth has infinite worth.

John 3:16 speaks of God so loving us that He gave His Son for us. To Him, you’re worth it. He knows everything about you, knew what you’d do before you did it, and loves you. His opinion is more important than any, and He thinks you’re worth paying/giving the life of His Son, Jesus. That means you’re worth it.

Keywords: Love, God wants to relate, you’re worth it

How much does God love you and me?

He loves you so much it’s difficult to properly describe. The Bible gives us great help in seeing that love. Psalm 22 contains a prophetic description of Jesus on the cross. In part of it, Jesus looks forward to telling his brothers and sisters about the salvation that they can have. Yes, He was looking forward to being with us and was talking to us while He was on the cross.

Hebrews 12:2 (WEB) says:

looking to Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith, who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Please note the phrase, “for the joy that was set before him.“ That was not about taking up His eternal position again – He had already had that and would not have gone through everything He did to simply regain what He already had. He was wanting to gain, and that gain was you and me. His entire effort was to make a way for your salvation. His joy, then, must have been and must still be the people that He loves.

That is How much He loves you. You are so special to Him that even when He was on the cross He looked forward to being with you. You brought Him so much joy that He could endure the horror of the cross itself — the physical pain — and of becoming sin — the spiritual pain. He did all of that so that He could spend eternity with you and others. He loves each of us fully, as well as fully loving His entire church. The extent of that love for us is further shown in John 17, in which Jesus is intent upon asking that He could be in those that He loves. He, the perfect One, chose to give up everything and endure the most excruciating pain while thinking of you and me He chose to make his dwelling place inside those who believe and fully yield to Him (who follow Him as Lord and Savior). That is how close He wants to be to you and me. All of the things above show how special you are to Him and how much He loves you.

Keywords: God’s love for us, God in us, cross, crucifixion, God wants to relate

The hallmark of a Christian is love

Christians don’t need to compete to find their value. So what should they be about? A Christian knows the love of God, and loves back in response. The relationship produces a simple and pure devotion to Christ, characterized by loving God and people. Love is the hallmark of a Christian – a result of being loved.


Keywords: God loves you, relationship, value, competition, simplicity and purity of devotion to Christ

Your God-given value makes comparison and competition unnecessary

People often compare themselves to others or compete with others in order to find or to re-affirm their value. In a previous post,https://abudaud.com/2019/03/09/a-loving-god-gives-value-to-each-person/ , I wrote that an individual’s value comes from God, and is infinite. We do not have to do anything to find, prove or affirm it.

The following verse indicates that those that try to find their value relative to others do not understand God’s way of ascribing our value to us — He made and loves us.

12 For we are not bold to number or compare ourselves with some of those who commend themselves. But they themselves, measuring themselves by themselves, and comparing themselves with themselves, are without understanding. 2 Corinthians 10:12 WEB

Understanding God’s value system makes comparison unnecessary because His love for you makes your worth infinite. The following verse, which uses “provoke” in the sense of “challenge”, indicates that we should not even challenge each other — we don’t have to. I’m not suggesting not playing sports. Instead, I am saying that we find our value in God’s love for us rather than trying to find value by overcoming another in a real or imagined contest.

26 Let’s not become conceited, provoking one another, and envying one another. Galatians 5:26 WEB

Philippians 2:3-4 contains a similar prohibition against rivalry:

doing nothing through rivalry or through conceit, but in humility, each counting others better than himself; each of you not just looking to his own things, but each of you also to the things of others.
Philippians 2:3-4 WEB

Having infinite value, and knowing that others share that same value, makes it possible to count others better than yourselves. You are God’s completely loved masterpiece, so you do not need to create a system of comparisons and competitions to find out or prove how much you are worth. God gave you value when He created you, and proved that love by paying the ultimate price for each individual through Jesus’ death on the cross.

A future post (“The hallmark of a Christian…”) will cover how Christians, knowing their infinite value, should direct their energies.

Keywords: God loves you, relationship, value, competition, simplicity and purity of devotion to Christ